We’ve been there. Who hasn’t?
Just when we thought we’re on the verge of realizing our goals, we run 10 steps short from the finish line. A job interview that never made it, a show that got cancelled, an exam that flunked, a 10 year relationship that withstood all odds only to call it quits the next day, finishing a four year course only to graduate and find out it’s nowhere near our passion, and so on.
Below is a short list I have rounded up when I too, experienced my own share of curveballs. Do take note however, that this list is not absolute—- it can be customized according to your given situation.
Add or subtract as you wish, my darlings.
Know your worth.
-At the first sign of failure, it is but human nature to cast the heaviest blow on ourselves.
Interviews that didn’t make it and applications that got rejected?
Find it in you to accept the curveball (this may take time, but it will come), take a deep breath and then remind yourself that things happen for a reason.
Most of the time, detours are blessings in disguise that lead us to where we are supposed to be.
We all know the story of that boy who failed all his exams and never made it to college but——- now owns the biggest multimillion dollar company to date.
So embrace the changes without doubting yourself, your skills & your talents, because darling each of us are diamonds waiting to be polished by the right hand under the right circumstance given the right degree of temperature that will bring out the sparkle in each of us.
You are an amazing person capable of so many things and you are worthy of love, success, and happiness. It may not be happening now, all of those things that you have planned, but one day it will.
Read this again and REPEAT when necessary.
Enjoy your own company.
-Taking a detour allows us to reconnect with ourselves again.
Sometimes we spend so much time with others that we forget about ourselves, what we truly want to do and what makes us happy. And when we somehow lose ties with them, we tend to lose ourselves in the process too.
Failed relationships and broken friendships?
This time, start anew. Date yourself. Alot a special time to pamper yourself. Do all the things you love and take time to do anything and everything you enjoy. In my case, it was always writing and giving in to my wanderlust, what’s yours?
Realize that before you can ever be happy in the company of others, you should first find happiness with your own.
We cannot give what we do not have after all.
-Okay so we’re done with picking ourselves up after the curveball. It doesn’t stop there. Once we have found the courage to stand back up, it’s time to refocus the target.
We may have lost the battle on the first try but the war isn’t over just yet.
START dreaming again. Start mapping out goals. Set those plans and rebuild what was once broken, this time with a better and wiser battle plan.
Failing on the first try only means we are one step AHEAD for the second one because we now know what doesn’t work. Now let’s try our hand at all the things that just might.
One of the best things to be blessed with in this lifetime is a SECOND CHANCE. Not all of us are lucky enough to have this. So if it does come your way, make sure to use it wisely.
Find a good support system
-Family, friends, people who love us and care for us to the very end. We all need that.
As we grow older we find our circle growing smaller but more meaningful. Hold on to the ones who are true.
The best support system, like wine, only grows better with time.
BELIEVE in yourself again
It all starts with you. Believe in yourself and everything that you are capable of doing. Believe that you have the capacity to stand back up again.
Believe YOU CAN and you are halfway there.
-Finally, when all else fails, don’t ever forget to lift everything up to the Big Guy up there.
When things get hard to stand, KNEEL.
Faith doesn’t make things easy. It makes things possible.
And that ends Superwoman’s list right there, darlings.
I hope this helps you deal with your own curveballs one day.
I’m no expert in life but I do know one thing, I am a SHARER. And what I learn firsthand, I share with all those who go through the same things I have, to help them pull themselves back up again. (And yes, when the day comes that I too may need some reminding, this post will come in handy right here, hehe).
Here’s hoping that we all empower one another to be the best version of ourselves, spread happiness wherever we go and back each other up whenever we need to.
Leaving you all with a lovely thought to remember:
“When we come to our ultimate lowest of lowest points, there is nowhere else to go but UP.”
Keep the good vibes coming!
All my Love,